Saturday, 19 September 2009

Signal Error

Do people get the wrong signals about me when I'm being too good or kind too people? Why do people think that I'm interested in someone when I treat everyone the same? I always treat everyone nicely. I do tend to give in to people which I'm trying to learn to say no. By being kind, is that giving the wrong signals? Does that mean that I'm interested in that person? I really dont know what to do? Thanks for the comments to ask me to be myself. But when I'm being myself people may tend to get the wrong signals. So how do I get to be myself? If I set boundaries also, people will complain why I'm acting cold. I'm so lost. Really never felt like this before. Now sometimes it's so hard to be myself.

11 comments:

jlwh86 said...

haha so kesian of u....

Anonymous said...

wow, i knw who this person ur talking about....this person is not a very good person..now that you knw pls be aware....

Anonymous said...

think deep, reflect and ask God....perhaps God will show u and bring someone to help you for the better....have faith, he will provide

erictbk said...

nah... brush all these off.. what's wrong with being nice to someone... if tht were to be misinterpret then sorry for that person?! what can you do?!! it's not even your fault when you are treating everyone as equal and tht somebody got it wrong.. as i said dont get urself too stress and in despair by compromising your way of living for others too hard. eventually you'll be at the lose end. Get use to it. dont bother, or nw that you know ppl get easily misinterpret you so you might now set a hint to anyone you'll be treating nice like "hey, im treating everyone the same way too u knw". get whata mean? get use to it bro.

erictbk said...

and say you wana adjust yourself for others? it'll never be materialised. you cant be satisfying every single soul on earth.. just be yourself and move on!! go!!! see u after my finals ya!!

Lisa ^^, said...

Ahaha. Eh. Please la. Biar orang salah faham la. You don't owe anyone an explanation. You're just being the nice person you are. As long as you know that your intentions are honest and sincere, who's to say that's wrong? Stay strong bro, seriously. BE YOURSELF. I know it's hard. But don't place importance on the careless words of others. Ignore them. Aite? Muakz love ya bro !! Take care :)

Anonymous said...

if the person misunderstand you then let him or her be...cuz ur such a nice nice guy...and ur the best!! since u have no interest in the person...juz tell him or her directly...

SJ said...

i totally agree with you! why ppl must think that we've sth toward somebody when we treat them nicely. we're just treating ppl as how we want to be treated isnt it? that we wan to be treated nicely. those ppl are just thinking too much i surmise. hmm. sometimes we just gotta ignore the say of others and move on. get on with present live. give a deaf ears to them. and to be ourselves is the best of all. as it's hard to impersonate and it's harder to not being our true selves.

ps you're invited to comment on my post too =)

Henry Yew said...

Ah gee Chee Lupp, it's a Malaysian sort of mentality, which, like you, I was particularly sick of during our earlier years. This kind of thinking (that you're interested in someone if you're being kind to them) is so misleading and frustrating to a point.

Let's just face the fact. That friend who tells you to be yourself has a lot more to know about you. You can tell that friend that he or she does not know you enough, and that your old friends (like me and others) can testify to your true benign and kind nature.

It's guys like you that girls would and should look for. Haha! Who wouldn't want a partner who is true to himself and herself during a courtship, and remain true forever?

Amanda Chung said...

hm....but u are the nicest friend!!! sometimes more like a brother wor...why change?????

Aaron Chan Chee Kin said...

Being nice is a great thing.....But it's kinda sad that people always thinks differently. But dun fret dun need to change....but remember about boundaries la........it's not easy but it's a learning

If anythign also got big bro here ma